I'm a 25-year-old guy and my parents are pushing me to get married. But here's the thing, I get really nervous and scared whenever I think about it. The main issue is that my penis doesn't stay strong and if it does, I ejaculate in like 30-40 seconds. I've had a habit of watching porn 247 for about three and a half years, though I stopped a few months back. Once, I tried having sex with a woman who was willing, but I got so scared, my heart felt like it was beating ten times faster than usual. Even when we just talked on the phone, I'd feel something coming out of my penis. Is there anything I can do to sort this out? Any advice would be really helpful.

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Dr Anshul Maheshwari

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It's understandable that you're feeling anxious, but this situation is more common than you might think. Anxiety and past habits like excessive porn consumption can affect sexual performance. Its important to focus on improving your mental health, reducing stress, and allowing time for recovery. Consider speaking with a healthcare professional or a therapist to guide you through these issues and develop a plan to regain confidence and improve your well-being.

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